I read some news about how people use the name of "Tantra" to organize the sexual activity and charge people big money in China.
Then also read another news about the registered member amount of "Affair out of marriage club" website in UK is over 4million.
Made me think: Is it really easier for the morden people to talk about sex than talk about love, why?
I found this paragraph in Chinese, I used google to translate it and revised a little. Is it part of the reason?
Since Freud proposed the concept of "libido", in public, bold talk about sex, to promote sexual liberation has become a modern style, a pioneer attitude. The courage to share their sexual experience at the same time, seems to be slowly forgotten the most basic human emotions--- "sex" should be enchanted by "love". Sexual liberation at the same time brought the love indifference of the whole society, the romantic fantasy of love was gradually replaced by the desire of pursuiting the physical pleasure, the amoral sex greatly relieved the sacred status of the love, the excessive sway of "libido" caused the "forbidden fruit" lost the sense of mystery and attractivity. "">Gradually, people talk about sex more than talk about love, sex was stripped off the cloak of love, became self-sufficient pleasure to enjoy.
The same time, the uncertainty of the real world, exacerbated by the fear of love. As Crawford puts it: "but the word "love" gradually darken, becoming / heavy and wavering", meanwhile has been given too much expectation to the stressful urban prohibitive....
Here is the Chinese:
Great. Why did you delete that discussion?
Ah, okay, I know now.
Bollocks, I'm not posting on your threads anymore :-P
No problem, I will post on yours. :P
Dear you are very kind loving and beautiful. i love your voice:-D. dont know any of the activities but understand man can separate sex form love. to have sex doesnt necessarily require to fall in love.but i believe most men is not looking for mere physical pleasure(what s the difference with four-footed animals then if they do?) still havefaith in love and still believe the one i was with had at least a strong liking to me. dont think pure sex makes ppl most relaxed and happiest. but with love involved will do so.
sex and love issue is not as simple as black and white, but i think we have choices,we have right to say no, if the one we come across wants sex only,which isnot what we want, we can simply walk away. it is ok we get hurt,(to hurt and get hurt is a part and parcel of life,isnt it:) btw i am more familiar with another book of Freud: Dream Analysis:-)
What a load Chinese bullshit!
I believe that I am meant to find a Chinese girl who the one for me. The one that mummy and daddy or my dead ancestor found for me. We can have pure love and pure sex and pure child and pure shit. I believe if you have sex with me, then you must love me first. Enjoying sex for pleasure with love is what animals do, we Chinese don't do animal activities!
How come you are still not banned?
Why should someone ban him ? He is not polite,but he is explaining his feelings and shows what kind of person he is..
Got to love people who grew up in censorship countries. Don't like anyone? give him the 'ban'!
Thank you Tiff, I love you too. ;p
I think you are very wise with this. to hurt and get hurt is a part and parcel of life.
Maybe it is better just let things happen natually, sex, no sex, love, no love..... Why need to think too much? But, when I read these news, I thought what if we never separated them? Is it a must step in human being's history? Or is it a final end?
OMFG there going to be some lesbian action soon? You both love each other.....
Yeah, just go with the flow! You don't have to act like a desperate Chinese chicken that flaps its wing and scream out loud looking for a partner!
For Jesus' Sake, STFU.
LMFAO! For Christ sake! LOL