Separate sex and love really make the city people more relaxed and happier?
I read some news about how people use the name of "Tantra" to organize the sexual activity and charge people big money in China.
Then also read another news about the registered member amount of "Affair out of marriage club" website in UK is over 4million.
Made me think: Is it really easier for the morden people to talk about sex than talk about love, why?
I found this paragraph in Chinese, I used google to translate it and revised a little. Is it part of the reason?
Since Freud proposed the concept of "libido", in public, bold talk about sex, to promote sexual liberation has become a modern style, a pioneer attitude. The courage to share their sexual experience at the same time, seems to be slowly forgotten the most basic human emotions--- "sex" should be enchanted by "love". Sexual liberation at the same time brought the love indifference of the whole society, the romantic fantasy of love was gradually replaced by the desire of pursuiting the physical pleasure, the amoral sex greatly relieved the sacred status of the love, the excessive sway of "libido" caused the "forbidden fruit" lost the sense of mystery and attractivity. "">Gradually, people talk about sex more than talk about love, sex was stripped off the cloak of love, became self-sufficient pleasure to enjoy.
The same time, the uncertainty of the real world, exacerbated by the fear of love. As Crawford puts it: "but the word "love" gradually darken, becoming / heavy and wavering", meanwhile has been given too much expectation to the stressful urban prohibitive....
Here is the Chinese:
自弗洛伊德提出“力比多”的概念以来，在公开场合大胆谈论性爱，宣扬性解放，已经成了一种现代的风格、先锋的姿态。人们在勇敢地分享自己性经验的同时，似乎正在慢慢淡忘，在人类最基本的情感中，“性”本应由“爱”而起。性解放的同时带来了整个社会的爱冷漠，关于爱情的浪漫主义幻想逐渐被追求生理快感的欲望所取代，不受道德约束的性行为极大消解了爱情的神圣地位，被过度挥洒的力比多使“禁果”逐渐丧失了神秘感与吸引力。渐渐地，人们谈论性多于谈论爱，性被剥离了爱的外衣，变成了自给自足的快感享受。
同时，现实社会的不确定性，更加剧了人们对爱情的恐惧。正如卡佛所言：“但爱这个字———/这个字在逐渐变暗，变得/沉重和摇摆不定”，被赋予了多过期待的爱情，令本来就压力重重的都市人望而却步。
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Permalink Reply by Young Chinese Girls Liberator on -
I wonder what she/he will say when he/she slept with some guy/girl and later on they told him/her they love them for their body. Does that make him/her disgusting as well?
Do you suggest we have test to get on this board now?
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Permalink Reply by Lǎotóuzi - 老头子 on -
Damn right! Anybody who posts pictures like the first two on this page should automatically be rejected.
http://www.shenzhenstuff.com/photo/photo/listForContributor?screenN...
Oh, and by the way, I'm not sure about you yet.
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Permalink Reply by Young Chinese Girls Liberator on
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And doing sex without love make us animal? or bad?
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Permalink Reply by Lǎotóuzi - 老头子 on
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Well, at least for the two (or more) people involved. However sex without love isn't bad for one either. No such thing as bad sex, it's all good, some is just better.
That's a point not covered, what if three (or more) people love each other? Is that ok sex and not disgusting?
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Permalink Reply by Lǎotóuzi - 老头子 on
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"I doubt if men is spiritually in love with one while sexually involves with others."
It reminds me that many women in China are still shackled with an immature and unrealistic concept of love and sex. Why does being in love with one person preclude having sex with another? Why does having desire for one person preclude loving another?
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Permalink Reply by Zen In FRED's Nutsack on -
My mum. I guarantee you, there was no sex there.
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Permalink Reply by Young Chinese Girls Liberator on
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Let me see...
1. Not all women that are loved want to be in a monogamy relationship.
2. Some loved wives, who cannot provide sex for reason such as bored, medical or away, encourage their husband to seek pleasure in other women as long they know about it.
I would like to ask do you ever thinking about sex itself seriously? Or should I ask, did you ever sexed anyone? And if yes, what would the man who's being sexed by you thinks about all the men you have previously sexed?
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Permalink Reply by Lǎotóuzi - 老头子 on
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To answer your questions seriously (as you did not answer mine). I will tell you I have been in love many times in my life. (I really am laotouzi.) I have had two wives, both of whom I loved and was in turn loved.
I will tell you that not only do some women not wish a monogamistic relationship but enjoy complex relationships. They may suggest a person to include in such a relationship or even bring one home to surprise you. I was a "Child of the 60's", some called it the Age of Enlightenment. You probably aren't prepared to believe what some of the women I have loved and been loved by in return would think about all this.
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Permalink Reply by Young Chinese Girls Liberator on
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ancient China was monogamy? LOL!
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Permalink Reply by Young Chinese Girls Liberator on
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We should do whatever makes people happy :D
Including sexing without loving!
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Permalink Reply by Lǎotóuzi - 老头子 on
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I'm not saying to do whatever makes you happy. There are a lot of perverts out there even by my standards, but don't confuse sex with love or love with sex. Neither one precludes the other but they aren't the same thing.
Just understand that an evening of sex between consenting adults doesn't necessarily need to involve a lifetime of commitment, love or even friendship. It can be a release of stress and a good form of relaxation. It's part of the human condition to need this form of release. Many deny this including the clergy but at least in my opinion it's true.
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