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Who should pay for the bill when going out on a date , the man or the woman or go dutch (AA)?

Though I would say that most people would answer that it should be the man.
As I have observed in different cultures around the globe basically from watching literally thousands of movies and reading thousands of books, my guess would be that the majority would say that it is the man who should pay the bill when going out on a date.

I am curious what Shenzhenstuff members would say.
In today's world when the opportunities for both men and women are roughly equal, it could be fair to say that going dutch is the right solution. Considering that the modern woman has always been advocating for women's liberation and equality.

Consider the following scenarios;
1. A man asks a girl out to an affordable restaurant (maybe about 30 to 50rmb a meal) but the girl refuses and suggests that they go to a more expensive one (about 100 to 200 per meal).
Even though a guy could not refuse a woman she likes and eventually agrees, the woman senses the man's reluctance especially when it is time to pay the bill. Even after a very wonderful dinner date, with a very good conversation, the  woman decides not to meet the man ever again.

2. A woman asks a man out for dinner several times, and the man pays for the bill all the time. The girl never even offers. Eventually, the guy likes the girl and proposes that they go steady. The girl refuses saying that they are not compatible, and that they are just meant to be friends. The girl continues to ask the man out saying that she likes to hang out with him. More often than not, she would even bring her friends along. And, of course, the man pays the bill.

3. A man asks a girl out but she says she is too busy to go out. After 3 months, the girl decides to accept the man's invitation and suggests that they go to Disneyland. The girl clearly says that she will bring her friend with her and that the man should be paying for the entrance fees. (entrance fee is about 350 per person). That also means the guy pays for everything else like the taxi fare, lunch and dinner, etc.

4. A man asks a woman he met online for a dinner date. The woman lives about 2 hours away and only agrees if the man goes to her location. The man agrees only if the woman will treat the man for dinner even just at McDonald's or KFC. The woman agrees without hesitation and says they should set a date within the week. Unfortunately after that, the woman has never replied to any text message nor answered any call. 
In most cases, a woman would disagree and outright say, "in your dreams". 

There are hundreds of different scenarios and I would love to hear about other people's experiences, both men and women. 
If men are to pay the bill, and women just collect and select, multiply this a thousand fold, a guy needs to spend his entire life savings in his pursuit of finding the right woman. That is considering the average pay in this part of the world is only 1,500 rmb per month even for a university graduate. 
No wonder a property developer once made an ad saying, "An apartment is more reliable than a man." - 房子比男人可靠。

In some rare instances, I have met some women who insist that we go dutch. Probably one in a thousand, it is meeting one in several years. 


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Geezez jumped on Christ on a fucking pogo stick.........

This just goes on and on and on.

Frankly, I paid for everything here on dates because there's no fucking way some Chinese girl in her 20s is making anywhere near the same amount of cash that I am. I got the money, so why the fuck not? I am something more than a cheap bastard.

Secondly, maybe you guys that are whining that the all girls are after here is your money, maybe you should consider some things:

1) You don't know where or how to find a decent woman.
2) All you are really are looking at is her ass, anyway. This means that you are shallow, so you end up with shallow women.
3) Your personality sucks hard, and have nothing better to offer anyway
4) You are fucking ugly, and have only money to make up for it.
5) All of the above.

Hah, I love that guy. He was hilarious in the movie but also a dick at the same time. Though I forget what movie he is from... Any help on the title?
"Office Space" - directed by Mike Judge, 1999
Awesome, thanks. I haven't seen it in a while. I will surely download it and have a good laugh when that part comes along. Will think of you Wade (in a non gay way).
Uh, thanks for clarifying!
Anytime (5 points)
Wah! And as usual, Jed has said it all. In one succint post. Well done, Jed, you nailed it yet abother time *high five*
kudo!
gold digger YCGs want to keep case-dough . LOL , money money i love you

So much red, did someone just get married? :-p
hahaha. yea, sorry for the rest of the heartbroken guys. this super gorgeous woman get married( ahhh, i put up my pics here remissly. )

@ sunshine - super gorgeous woman

...where?

I'd say very far from super gorgeous. Basically you're about to fall over the edge with "pretty"

FYI, this is a super gorgeous Chinese girl... :-p

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