Fear is Nothing. Size is Nothing. Intimidation is Nothing.
▼There are No Puzzles. Only Walled Thinking.▼
Effective Communication Series
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I specifically chose to use the Doberman and kitten to make my point because it's always
unfortunate when people erect mental barriers in their communication efforts. A young
(Mainland) Chinese adult who was taught all her life to be afraid, obey orders or play
it safe, —until suddenly she meets a Caucasian man she really likes but can't seem to
get past self-doubt and/or having anything interesting to say to the reserved book
-worm. The Filipina in China — and I always make distinctions where they're war
-ranted since I never had such experiences with the ones in America or Europe
— who apologizes too much, respects me way too much, and/but sadly isn't
getting the communication right due to obvious preconceived notions and
an inability to adjust to the communication style of the straight shooter.
Let's be clear. There are snobs and My Blog devotes considerable time
& effort exposing them, their antics, and their double standards. Pay
attention to my tags. Exhaustive & imperfect, yes I know. Forgive
me. We grew up around rich kids on whom we depended for our
rides to and from school spitting into our food and thinking it's
funny. Snobs like Visa, are everywhere you want to be. And
for them the only litmus test for any realization of fairplay
often always is their own biases. However, there's also
such a thing as knowing how to THiNK. Nobody is lar
ger than life. That means most functioning human
beings like the pets above, are supposed to be
approachable. The question is: Are you paying
attention to the unique personality of your
target, or you ignorantly THiNK we're all
the same and based on that erroneous
thought, like to think & decide for
them? Some who sought my help
recently for example, were ig-
nored not only because they
were not consistent com-
municators, but chiefly
because life is hard
enough. I give you
3+ ways to reach
me & I'm done
because how
you THiNK
is the real
puzzle
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Where you see walls, I see a fence because every problem is just a question waiting
Waiting for its soul mate & nemesis. That something or someone with the best idea
Friendship: Motives, Meaning & Misunderstandings of Origin
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Fear Makes People Paralyzed, Stupid & Indecisive (105)
(Other Iterations) 
(Follow the Dove)
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Confidence Builder & Difficult Conversation
(Other Iterations)
(Follow the Dove)
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PEACE
TT
F I N I S
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Tags: Actions. Not Words., Assumptions, Attitude, Authenticity, Bullies, Business, Career, Cats, Challenge, China, More…
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Comment by David - 戴維在中國 on August 12, 2012 at 10:14pm -
Hey, sharing is a good thing.
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Comment by THiNKTaNK on August 12, 2012 at 6:08pm -
That's what's up.
Sounds just like my:
Security Guards to "Loud, brash, arrogant" bratty/R I C H & BIG White college kid:
Sir, do you want to press charges?
His Answer: NO...
His face bleeding and swollen although he had a considerable height, weight and reach advantage....
'Tired TT arriving late from FT work for an Evening Class (after 1hr looking for parking) & being insulted with a racial slur for using the elevator from the Ground to 2nd Floor. "Next time, take the effn' stairs, lazy N-word" or something similar. Raced from 2nd to 5th waiting for them as the elevator doors opened...
3 Floors & fight later:
Washed my face (finer then than Denzel & Di Caprio combined :-) and reported to my class on the next floor 'Can't stand people ESPECIALLY RICH SPOILED (BIG) KIDS who start crap and then either want to call Police on you or use the Law or whoever has "power" (or some semblance thereof/guanxi if you like) or some gang or team against you. Sadly, it's the story of my life. Another reason, I just avoid certain environments. Use your imagination and apply context for wider meaning...and you'll get the whole drift. But it's a waste of time. Weak people/minds in an unfair/unjust world front'n, because they can get away with it or can afford it, monetarily speaking.
Don't make me tell more/similar stories, man.
as different rules/double standards apply to me. Yeah I said it.
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Comment by David - 戴維在中國 on August 12, 2012 at 4:14pm
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The bigger they are, the harder they fall.
Regail a tale from long ago. I used to know a small, wee fella by the name of Robert Bullman (Robbie) He was only about 5ft 2inch tall and a very unassuming fellow. Quiet for the most part, polite, and generally of good demeana. While in the pub one evening (twas new years eve in 1980 something) he and some of the fellows were enjoying a few beers before going to the local hot spot in those days known as 'The Kings Club' They had dancing, and a bar, all the usual. On Sundays it would double as a boxing club, with ring, and cash contests for local fighters. While in the pub there was also one of the local fighters. A big man of around 6ft 1 and thick set. His name was Dean something (can't remember the surname) He was also one of the local market traders (barrowboys) and ran a market stall six days a week. Loud, brash, arrogant, and very, very full of himself. He has won quite a few of the local boxing events in his time.
These two were about as different, as different could be - chalk & cheese if you like. And to say these two did not get along was an understatement. During the evening (and I am not sure of all the details here) there was an argument which culminated in Dean pulling a knife on wee Robbie. Robbies response to this was simply to tell him to 'put the knife away before he shoved it up his arse' Which to my great surprise standing nearby he did. The argument however continued. Finall another local lad named Fireman John (yes, he was a fireman) stepped in and suggested to settle the matter once and for all on the following Sunday at the fights. This was agreed to by both parties.
When Sunday came, as you can imagine there was a hell of a crowd there to watch this auspicious fight. Fireman John acted as referee to make sure queensbury rules were followed, and there was no biting, and/or conduct unbecoming. Boxing after all is a gentlemans sport. The two fighters stepped into the ring and as you can imagine there was a huge difference in weight class, stature, reach - well, everything really. You could quite literally cut the atmosphere with a knife, tensions were high. The bell rang and Dean stormed out of his corner lunging, and swung a huge right hook at Robbie, missed, and as he sidestepped his swing and got underneath him, Robbie hit him with an almost perfect uppercut *BAM!* Dean went down - hard. It was all over.
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Comment by THiNKTaNK on August 12, 2012 at 2:28pm
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Yezzir
:-)
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Comment by David - 戴維在中國 on August 12, 2012 at 2:20pm
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There are no problems, only challenges.
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Comment by THiNKTaNK on August 12, 2012 at 10:34am
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You're cute...Or probably as naughty as the cat yourself!Dobermans have come a long way. The stereotypical Doberman could have just lost it's cool and who knows snapped Missy Pussycat in two. But a well-trained Doberman understands 'Respect and Protect'. And so they know their boundaries and know their owner is the boss, whatever the situation.
That's why I like them. Because they're highly intelligent and trainable and know how to keep their cool;-)
You can see videos like the one above (well, sort of) here.
The ones with the Calm Assertive Energy designation.
Enjoy!
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Comment by Wandering Cat on August 12, 2012 at 8:30am
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The little cat is very naughty. It seems that the dog felt it annoying but can not be attracted. ;-)
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