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Permalink Reply by CK on May 6, 2008 at 4:44pm

Things never just happen. You have to make them happen.

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Permalink Reply by yangye on May 6, 2008 at 5:13pm

I agree too. It is very difficult to change it .Everyting all are be fixup.what time do what thing.hihi it's so bored.

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Permalink Reply by Mike61 on May 6, 2008 at 6:54pm

Actually, I think that most people spend a great deal of their energy in avoiding interesting things. I am basically lazy, but many interesting things have happened simply because I didn't avoid them.

I was the third in line when a job came up in Hong Kong in 1973, but the first two turned it down, so I got to go. All I said was "yes,sure". After that "Do you want to go to Algeria, then Bolivia, etc". All I did was agree to go. "Do you want to take a motorbike ride across the Andes?" - "Yes, sure", etc. "Do you want to walk up Lotus Hill at midnight?". I'd have to be really drunk to tell you how that one worked out.

Allright, I've had more offers than most, but in a smaller way in SZ a lot of people are too nervous about going places and doing things. I've lost count of the number of girls who were too nervous to come to dinner and a bar with me. OK, it might have been boring, but could it have been worse than staying at home by yourself?

Next time someone asks you to do something, just say "yes" and worry about it later.

Mike

PS My daughter is younger than you, and does not find life boring. I said "Come to SZ", and she said "Yes, sure".

PPS It is better to regret the things you have done than regret the things you have not done.

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Permalink Reply by yangye on May 7, 2008 at 9:33am

Maybe this is the difference of us.When someone ask me something that I can't do and no ability do it,I never give a affirmation answer to anyone.
I prefer to stay home than to go out.It's true.

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Permalink Reply by Mike61 on May 7, 2008 at 5:46pm

I think that the main difference between us is that I am 40 years older than you - I thought that a good Chinese girl would learn from her elders.

I have moved to many countries in my life, and since 1981 I have had children. When they first went to new schools they would complain that they had no friends. I told them just to talk to anyone else who was by themselves, and often they would find that the other people were just as lonely, and would be happy to have new friends. Now they are not shy about meeting people, but you have to start somewhere.

You have tried talking to people on this website and it has worked for you, so maybe you can try in real life now. Be careful, but not so careful that you do nothing.

Mike

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Permalink Reply by cat on May 6, 2008 at 4:45pm

same,i think so too,the life is so bored,nothing interesting.

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Permalink Reply by yangye on May 6, 2008 at 5:16pm

I am very glad to meet you. we have the same opinion.
tong dao zhong ren.hihi

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Permalink Reply by Frank Chen on May 6, 2008 at 5:31pm

everything is ok, just keep smiling gal!

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Permalink Reply by yangye on May 6, 2008 at 5:38pm

yeah,I do it .I am smiling face everything .In fact I am not happy even if smiling face life.Maybe I shouldnt ahve this thought in my age.

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Permalink Reply by seymour on May 6, 2008 at 7:56pm

I think age has nothing to do with it ... people of every age have these thoughts. I agree with Mike up above. Nothing happens in your apartment. Apart from watching TV of course, and really how much enjoyment do you get out of that ?
Go out, be open to things happening, and more things will happen. In my experience, if you put yourself in a place where something might happen (by that I mean not home) and are open to people, and things, they have a way of finding you. Give it a try. I don't mean put yourself in a situation you feel could be dangerous in any way, but if you think it might be boring - well you're already bored, so give interesting things a chance to happen.

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Permalink Reply by yangye on May 7, 2008 at 9:40am

I agree your opinion.I will try to go outside and to see the sun when I have spare time. My life would changed and had been happen many meaning things through this way.

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Permalink Reply by Matt on May 6, 2008 at 8:39pm

When you find the meaning please let me know !!
In my life really many things, not only great events but also very sad ones, have happend but still I don't know or found the real meaning of life and don't think it has any special meaning. But just one thing I'm so sure about is ' this very moment is my life' and I'd better try to make the best of it. I think life is quite hard for everybody but it can be easier to go on with if we learn to be easily satisfied with small vanities:-))).
' life is something to live, It'll not reveal us its real identity. let leave it misterious!'
I sned you a big hug

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