Depending on what you what, not what others tell you, first, a little introduction of oneself would be helpful.
stop looking just keep yourself open to every one who approaches you
Confidence is always the key, good friend. :)
Not asking advise online will help a lot.
"Not asking advise online will help a lot."
And probably that tip as well.
Personally, I find that having an enormous cock helps.
So simply and direct.
Did you get explosive messages?